It’s university and I’m eighteen years old and attempting to construct some plan my future, but I’m caught in a tension. The dilemma is whether I should do what I want to do, what I think I should do, or if there is any difference at all between those two questions. I say that I want to make the right decision to get myself a good job, but since when did I ever care that much about getting a “good” job? That’s already a signal to me that I’m trying to hide something from myself.
The problem right now is that I’m only half doing what I want- the other half is doing something that I want to do too, but for completely different reasons. It feels a little bit wrong. The tension is whether I want a degree in business, which I hate, or a degree in english, which I love. There are many other variables to this issue (trust me), but this is the basic core of it.
The question that keeps circling in my head is: “are you just taking business so that you sound smarter?” I think that I might be walking right back into my old habits without even realizing it. I might be back to wishing that I was the logical math genius rather than this complicated, creative personality that I’ve been given. Is it because I always want the quick answers and rather, I am the one who must explore, uncover and experience things the hard way before realizing what I knew all along? That is what makes me myself, and I do love it, but I also think that I am wishing myself, pushing myself, into a mold that doesn’t quite fit me. I can slip into it and wear it, but it doesn’t flatter who I really am or highlight my best qualities. I’m not my best self here.
The reason this is risky- switching programs- is not because I’m so worried about my future career path. I trust that that will unfold somehow. That’s not the point. The risk is that I feel like I’m about to let that elusive math and logic “self” beat me again. This means that I’m letting go of an ideal, trusting a lot (and giving up a job that might sound “smarter”).
I have to trust that God did not create me to be naturally systematic and logical for a reason. There is a reason why I’ve been gifted with this specific skill set and why this is my true passion.
I was walking to make an appointment with my academic advisor to talk about switching my program when suddenly I felt like I had put it off long enough. I needed to sit under this tree right now and write, for heaven’s sake.
Because something great might come from this; and how can I give up english for business? I’ll go further doing what I love than cinching myself into something I hate, something I know I’ll never really excel at. Maybe quitting business isn’t allowing it to trump me at all- maybe it is saving myself, freeing myself. Maybe it’s allowing myself space and energy to invest into doing what I love. I’d rather fight later for english and a job in that field than fight right now for an economics grade that I don’t even care about.
So, true to my usual self, nothing ever happens in any kind of conventional way for me. Nothing is very linear in my life. I think, though, that at some point honesty has to take over. I have to be willing to risk doing what I love for the sake of my sanity and my calling. I can’t fight the truth forever.